Happy Thanksgiving! I’m up earlier today that I’d like to be – sort of a pattern lately – but it gives me a little more time to focus on this day and to focus on gratitude.
Gratitude is such a powerful value. A mere “thank you” is, at the very least, a sign of civility – it may be just an acknowledgement for a small kindness or gesture but it reminds us, when we are on the receiving end of it, that we’ve been noticed. I think we all want our efforts to be noticed and one easy way to do this is to say ‘thank you’. It reminds us that we matter or that what we did matters to someone. It’s something that makes life nicer, makes it feel a little prettier.
But a much greater power lies within our being mindfully grateful. Our lives are not happy or good or do not run smoothly simply because we want them to and we can’t always command them or make them be such. We all want happiness. We all want to have, by our own definition, a good life. And
who doesn’t want days that run smoothly, absent of too many obstacles and unexpected snafus? By focusing on those things in our lives that we are grateful for we are able to minimize the impact of those snafus on our moods; we can feel better about our lives in general; we can be happier.
I think that on any given day most people have something that is not “right” going on. I feel quite fortunate that I can say that I don’t have a whole lot of “wrong” in my life and I know that many people are not so fortunate. That is something I also try to remember – that my list of things for which I am grateful may be much longer than that of others – that the stuff in my ‘bad’ column is significantly outnumbered by what’s in my ‘good’ one. Keeping things in perspective is important. Of course it is natural and normal, for whatever reason, to hone in on the negatives in our lives. We never seem to forget our youthful indiscretions no matter how long ago they occurred. On a day full of mostly good we tend to dwell on the one or two things that didn’t go well. We aren’t often kept awake at night because our kids are doing well, we had a great night out with friends or because we aced a test or presentation. It’s where our lives fell short or the challenges we aren’t quite sure how to deal with that elicit that insomnia. It may not be possible to flush these negatives from our minds or out of our lives but we can change how much energy we give to them and letting our gratitude take center stage is one way.
My life, like that of most, has its share of ups and downs. Presently there are some downs which are easy to get mired in – but I don’t want to be mired in them and I’m trying not to be. I’m not being 100% successful in that effort but I’m doing better than I would be were I letting those negatives stay front and center all the time. One thing I’m trying to do – something I should do each and every day (although admittedly I don’t always do so) – is remind myself of just a few things I am grateful for that day; to appreciate the good of my day rather than feeling like I just want to get through it.
So today I will definitely be letting gratitude rule. There is so much in life to appreciate. I have wonderful people in my life and wonderful memories of people who are no longer with us and yet they are. That alone is enough. I feel immensely blessed, however, that I have so much more to be
thankful for. And there is still so much more that is out there that is gratitude-worthy, that is just begging to be appreciated. All it takes is for us to simply notice. Happy Thanksgiving. - AMB
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